Ephesians 5:25-28 New International Version (NIV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
When we consider whether we are good enough, it’s possible to realize that in general we aren’t good enough without God, while still thinking we are good enough in certain areas without God’s help.
I got married a little later in life, in my thirties, and I remember being certain I was going to be a good husband. God had been working on me my whole life, I was actively serving Him in ministry, I could cook, I was a musician, and I wanted a wife and kids. I was sure my kindness, calm, and love was more than ready for the challenge of marriage. Oh man, was I wrong.
I don’t mean that as any kind of insult against my wife and kids, because they are wonderful. But I went into the marriage making the mistake of thinking I was already good enough and not allowing God to fully prepare me to be a husband and father.
When we look at the above scripture in Ephesians we see the true calling of a husband, and if you aren’t a husband, the echoes of what makes a man a Godly man. We are called to love our wife the same way that Christ loved us, up to and including being willing to sacrifice ourselves for her. We are also called to bathe her in the Word of God, teaching, leading, and preparing her to be pure and spotless for the return of Christ. We are called to treat her as well or better than we treat ourselves, because when we love her well we know that we are really understanding love.
The life of a Christian man is signified by his love. Is your love being grown and groomed by Christ so that your love will be good enough for His glory?
- What are some things you have tried to do in life without the help of God? How has God covered your shortcomings with His goodness?
- If you are not married what are some ways you need to be strengthened to be prepared for marriage? If you are married what area are you struggling in that you still need to be grown in? How is God working in your life to make you a better man?